Sex During Periods: What to Know and How to Discuss

It's rarely talked about. But it shouldn't be. Sex during menstruation is not something strange or "wrong." It's a common topic that is important to understand to avoid feeling awkward, getting into uncomfortable situations, and—most importantly—doing only what you truly want.

🤔 Is it okay to have sex during periods?

Yes, if both parties want it and feel comfortable. It doesn't harm your health, "ruin your cycle," or "interfere with body cleansing"—these are all myths.

On the contrary, some women experience increased desire and sensitivity during this time, and orgasm can even help reduce cramps.

But there's the opposite as well: during this time, you may feel vulnerable, irritable, heavy in the body. And then sex is the last thing you want. It all depends on your condition and cycle phase.

🩸 What to consider?

• Hygiene — you can lay a dark towel, have tissues on hand, or choose a position that is comfortable for both.
• Infections — the cervix is slightly open during this time, which means the risk of infection is slightly higher. If in doubt, use a condom.
• Positions — sometimes the body is especially sensitive during this period. It's good if you agree in advance to do everything gently and without haste.
• Contraception is still important — getting pregnant during periods is unlikely but not impossible, especially with an unstable cycle.

💬 How to talk about it?

Simply and honestly. You don't need to explain everything with anatomy. It's enough to say:

• "I'm on my period now, but if you're okay with it, I'd like to be close."
• "I'm uncomfortable right now, I just want to cuddle."
• "How do you feel about it?"

If you feel awkward speaking directly, you can start with texting. Or discuss it not in the heat of the moment, but in advance—calmly, when both are feeling good.

The main thing is not "can you?" but "do you want to?" You don't have to want sex to be "normal." And you don't have to refuse if you want it but are afraid of seeming "wrong."

The only thing considered right is what is comfortable for you.

Menstruation is not a pause in life. It's part of your body's rhythm. And you can choose how to be in this rhythm: with touches, with intimacy, with tenderness—or without all of that, just with yourself.

IVA is here to help you track your desires, mood, and body—and make choices that suit you best.